How we survive winter--big coats, warm hats, and coffee!!
Be prepared to see lots of pics of me in hats because keeping warm is more important to me than cute hair. <cries> Winter...
Also, my pal Jessica Calla released a new book today: She Runs Away. It's the second in the Sheridan Hall series. Let me tell you, Jess really has her finger on the pulse of the NA romance market. You'll love her writing style and characters. Keep reading for more info on She Runs Away!!
Trinna just HAD to get her paws on a copy!
Physical therapy:
So, Deek told you I've recently started physical therapy to heal the damage done to me in a previous relationship. You can read Deek's account, of watching a survivor struggle, here and my account about being a survivor here.
When I went to the doctor to talk about lingering pain I have from my time in an abusive relationship, I wanted a solution to fix it. The doctor ran tons of tests and handed me a piece of paper: undeniable, irrefutable proof, in black-and-white, of the abuse I'd suffered. And while it was affirming to see a tangible representation of the truths I'd spoken, it wasn't a solution. But sadly, all the doctors had to offer me was that proof; they said my pain would just be a "quality of life" issue.
Well, that didn't jive with me, so I did what I am freakishly good at doing: research.
And I discovered many people had found real solutions to these problems in physical therapy. Again, I researched and found an office in my area that specializes in my type of situation. I called and told them about my pain, about who and what caused it, and asked if they thought they could help. And to my immense relief, they said they could.
On the first day I met with my physical therapist, she said given my history of being abused, I'd need a very specialized treatment program. She ran some tests and affirmed--as the doctors had--that abuse had caused my pain. BUT she disagreed with the docs about it being simply a "quality of life" issue. She saw no reason why I couldn't completely reverse the damage, even the bad ones done to certain nerves!! She explained it like this: My nerves had been damaged, and my muscles had grown accustomed to being constantly tense, constantly "on alert" and ready to protect my body. And even though I've been safe for years, my muscles and nerves don't know how to undo what they've learned. So, we're teaching them. And as the muscles stop preparing for attack, the damage to the nerves will heal. We have to get my body out of protection mode and into healing mode.
Deek comes with me to my physical therapy sessions, and the therapist teaches him things he can do to help me at home. I am beyond blessed to have such a supportive partner throughout this process. My therapist says she's never seen an individual so prepared--yay, research--and a couple so committed to working together to tackle this problem. She said she knew from day one I would succeed in this endeavor because of it.
After only a few visits, I've already seen a marked reduction in pain. I will beat this. I will be victorious. With Deek by my side, as always. Stay tuned for the day when I proclaim: I am pain free!!
Team Tenacious tackles all problems...together. Boom!
Anniversary:
So, Deek and I celebrated another anniversary! We spent the weekend together: chilling, talking, eating, and getting a massage. I love how we both value time together rather than money spent. It's all about the time, my friends.
Gosh, I epically adore this man!!!
Ready for massages
But first, some fries...
We always eat at Wendy's for lunch on our anniversaries because it's the first meal we shared together when we met in person.
Couple's massage...ahhhhhh.
Then we may have lived it up in a less relaxing location! LOL!
In Bookish News:
We got celebratory coffee after talking to the biggest local retailer about carrying our books!!
Deek got some super amazing, incredibly exciting book news, but we can't share the deets yet!
My friend and coworker, Jessica Calla, released her second book. It's soooooo good!
About She Runs Away:
After tragedy strikes New Jersey University's Sheridan Hall, freshman quarterback Ben Riley’s stable, normal life is turned upside down. Sidelined from playing the game he loves and on the verge of losing his scholarship, Ben wants nothing more than to escape the chaos of college and return home to rural Pennsylvania and his family.
Yet, there is something that keeps him from running. Or someone. A cute blonde he had a chance with but blew off for all the wrong reasons.
Megan Smith has secrets. Secrets that have burned her in the past. Secrets she’s unwilling to share with anyone at Sheridan Hall—especially Ben, her sexy, rough around the edges floormate who broke her heart in a matter of days after moving into Sheridan. Meg decided early on that it’s easier to live life on her own than to share her secrets and let people in.
Meg runs and Ben follows, but sooner or later the clock on their chance at love will expire. With inner demons dragging them both down, they must find a way to stop running and trust one another, or risk losing their perfectly-matched love forever.
This is Jess. Ain't she cute??
And Other Randomness:
Deek and I had the opportunity to go learn about falconry this past weekend. I'm a big history buff and proponent of the "never stop learning" ideal, so we went. We learned a ton about birds of prey and even got to pet a fluffy owl and touch a hawk's talons!!
We froze our buns off but learned a lot of fascinating things!
Annabelle the barn owl
Christmas is coming!!!
Nerding it up with my hat and glasses.
Trinna Baby wants to be part of the hand holding. Be still my heart!
Sometimes, we just can't be serious... ;)
Until next time, be a beacon of light and love in the world.
I'm so incredibly proud of you, my love! Your strength, courage, and tenacity to survive domestic abuse is inspiring. I'm honored that after all that you took a chance on love with this crazy man.
ReplyDeleteI'm beyond grateful that we've kept looking and found someone that's helping with the pain you've been dealing with. Nothing breaks my heart as much as not being able to take the agony away from you. It's so amazing at how much you are kicking bootae!
It's a testament to your strength and openness that you are willing to share and give others hope when they too have been turned away and told that it is a 'quality of life' issue.
I had an awesome time with you on our anniversary date! How about we schedule another just like it in a year? Oh, wait, maybe another one in six months for our second second wedding anniversary? Man, do I love that I got to marry you twice!
Jess' book looks great! She really does have the pulse of the NA romance genre. Even this thriller author/reader loves her books!
Oh, my Deek, I adore you beyond beyond. Thank you, my love! And yes, see you for another anniversary in six months! Can't wait!!!
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