The Fulfillment Series

The Fulfillment Series

Monday, July 27, 2015

Date Night and Relationships

This Friday, Deek and I had went out for a date night. I love those nights when we can put the stress and responsibility of every day life on hold and just have fun together. And boy did we need it after weeks and weeks of strenuous deadlines. 

We decided to go to Portland to do the aerial tram. Deek's always wanted to do it but never got the chance, and since he has less than a year left of living here in the Pacific Northwest, we've got to be sure to do the things he's always wanted to do before we pack up and head east.

Here we are! Portland Aerial Tram!

Up, up, and away! Deek said he felt like Peter Pan flying over the houses below us.

Beautiful views of a beautiful city. If it had been a little less cloudy, you would have been able to see Mt. St. Helen's.

The view from the top.

There was also a sky bridge. Dude, that thing was LONG!

View from the bottom--the inner workings of the tram.

We also explored the nearby pedestrian bridge. Oh man, the stairs to get up to that thing were like the Rocky movies! Annnnddd, we'd just had our leg day workout two days before. Anyone who knows weight training knows the "joys" of leg day. Try hiking up some Rocky stairs after that. Holy sore legs, Batman!

After we rode the tram, we took a stroll along the John's Landing section of Portland. I've been to most of the little subsections of Portland now, and this part may be my favorite. It has such a lovely view of the river, quaint shops, and lush greenery. We hiked down to to the river and sat down to chat on an old log. When we got ready to go, we carved our initials in the log...all old-timey romance style. I love us. Have a mentioned that before? ;)

By the Willamette River (Will-am-it for all you non-natives)

Is Portland stunning or what?

Man, oh man, what a handsome man!

So, after our date, I started thinking about dating and relationships. I've been in some good relationships, and I've been in some bad ones. Deek and I have, by far, the best relationship I've ever been in, and I started thinking about why that might be. Here are some of my conclusions (though they're not even close to the total scope of why it's so amazing):

1) Be with your best friend. Your lover, partner, significant other should first and foremost be your best friend. Deek is the person I want to spend all my time with, tell all my secrets to, and with whom I can completely be myself. He sees the best and the worst parts of me and still loves me. Whenever something happens in my life (good, bad, or otherwise), he's the first person I want to tell. We enjoy the simple things in life--talking, laughing, just being together. I'd rather sit and talk to him all day long than do anything else.

Be best friends!

2) Relationships aren't give and take; they're give and give. In college, I took a class on relational communication, and the professor brought in couples who'd been married for over 50 years to tell us their secrets to success. And they all said pretty much the same things. But two pieces of advice stuck out to me the most. Number 1: Give and forgive often. Number 2: Wake up each morning and ask yourself, "What can I do for my spouse today?" I think that's the key. If you both wake up ready to give to your partner, you'll have an amazing life. The problems arise when one person is doing the giving while the other is doing the taking. Then you have an imbalance. The taker takes and doesn't appreciate. The giver gives and receives nothing in return. It's no good. Deek is beyond amazing to me. Most days he brings me my breakfast in bed, he's all too willing to give me a massage if I'm stressed, he's always asking if I need anything, he opens the car door for me (I'm Southern and appreciate this chivalrousness), he's always telling me how beautiful I am and how happy I make him...I could seriously continue with this list for days. He's the most giving man in the world. And I never want to get to the point where I take it for granted or expect it. I cherish his giving heart, and I try to give back as good as I get.

Wake up each morning thinking "What can I do for my partner today?"

3) Communication is key. That's the age-old saying, right? But it's so, so true. Talk, all the time, about everything. If you don't like something, say it (with tact--remember you love this person). If you like something, thank the person (a little thank you goes a long way). Talk about your hopes, your dreams, your fears, your doubts. Ask your partner about his/her day. Ask questions if you don't understand something they're doing or saying. Talk about money (always be on the same page in this area, or you're in for trouble). Every night, Deek and I lie in bed, face-to-face, and spend at least an hour talking to each other about everything and nothing. Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk until you're blue in the face, and then talk some more. 

 Always communicate.

4) Kill each other's spiders. I read an article recently about the importance of killing your partner's spiders. I sent it to Deek, and he read it and loved it too. We all have "spiders"--things we worry about or fear. And a good partner is willing to be sensitive to those. For example, I've had several alcoholics in my life, and my life has been seriously and adversely affected by them and their dependence on alcohol. So, Deek doesn't drink. He said he's more than happy to give up the occasional beer so that I feel safe and comfortable. I never asked him to that, but he just did it because he knows how I feel about it. He has his own spiders too, and I'm willing to make accommodations so he feels safe and comfortable. He doesn't ask me to do that or make me do it; I do it because I love him. His well-being and happiness are crucial to me. If you're interested in checking out the article, here it is:

Kill your partner's spiders. 

Deek says I'm a deep thinker, so I'm sure I'll continue to ponder this topic in the days to come. Feel free to share your own relationship tips as well! I'm all ears! ;)

Until next time...

Friday, July 24, 2015

The Editing Cave and PNW Adventures

I have emerged from the editing cave victorious! <happy dance> Our line editor, Ellie, is spending the summer at a Canadian publishing house, so I have taken over the line and copy editing in her absence. Are you ready to come back yet, Ellie? ;)

Because of that, I had two deadlines that bumped right up against one another. I worked on line and copy edits for Travelers by Meradeth Houston (due out August 4), and I had content edits sent me to by my content editor, Jen, for my own book The Fulfillment (due out in October). And, as if our house weren't crazy enough with that, Deek had HIS content edits due for 122 Rules. So, our literary assistant, Trinity the cat, had her little paws full wrangling all those edits.

Even though we were pressed for deadlines and generally in a state of spaz, Deek and I managed to get away for some fun adventures. We went to a pool party, balloon festival, 4th of July celebration, blackberry picking, street festival, and most recently, a family reunion.

Here we are headed to the pool party with some friends. Way fun!

We're at the balloon festival following the pool party--long but fun day!

Such a cool thing to see these all lit up like that! Wowsa! 

4th of July. They had a selfie booth--genius!

Deek after he finished his content edits! WOOT! WOOT! So proud of you, my love!

Street festival! Party on!

Trying on hats at the street festival. Have I mentioned I have a "thing" for hats lately?

After the street festival, we visited the Beverley Cleary monument. Here is Ramona!! She was one of my most favorite literary characters growing up. Ramona Forever, y'all.

Very hawt man picking blackberries! Those little suckers are hard to pick. No wonder they're so expensive at the grocery story! It's treacherous to get 'em!

I told Deek I thought we needed a little more cardio in our weight lifting sessions. He took me seriously... holy cow!

Family reunion at the beach. The PNW has some of the most gorgeous sunsets. BUT I don't think I'll ever get used to packing a coat to go the July. Wut the wut?

Hawt man, cold beach.

We don't have driftwood on the beaches in the South, so I'm fascinated by that and the structures people build with them.

Exploring the town---dinner with the whole family!

Beautiful gazebo overlooking the bay.

Back to the beach--freezing our buns off!

We took a moment to write in the sand. Awwww! 

I do love me some Deek!

Here are some breathtaking shots when we traveled along the coastline to see a lighthouse! Deek's mom loves lighthouses, so it was a "must see."

OMG! Just breathtaking!

She must not like what she sees on the computer. Such a task master...

Ninja kitty protecting her Daddy while he works!

So, even though we've been swamped with edits, we've managed to get away for a few fun adventures. We had a total blast with Deek's family, many of whom came from quite a distance away to visit. I've never been camping (indoor girl), so I got to experience the chill-zen thing that goes on when people get away from the world, sit around a campfire, and hang out with family. Good times, great memories.

And best of all, I did everything with my bestest friend--Deek. I want him by my side for any adventures I take because he makes everything a thousand times more fun! 

Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to crawl in my bed and chillax since my work is complete. My eyes are tired from all the reading, so I think I'll catch an episode or two of The 100. ;) 

Until next time...

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

#Pit2Pub Event

Hello friends! I have been woefully absent thanks to editing deadlines. Our lovely line editor, Ellie, has taken a summer position at another publishing house, so I'm taking over line editing for her. In addition to that, I've been helping Deek with his first round of content edits on 122 Rules, AND I just received my own first round of content edits on The Fulfillment (the final book in The Fulfillment Series).

Don't worry, Deek and I have still been up to some random adventures, so I'll be blogging about those soon. I've post a few pics at the bottom to tide you over! ;)

But in the meantime, tomorrow is the #Pit2Pub event on Twitter, and I'll be favoriting pitches on behalf of BookFish Books--as will Ellie Siplia, Jen Reilly, and Heather Van Fleet. I'm interested in fantasy, sci-fi, mythology (I lurve Percy Jackson with a passion--#CampHalfBlood), romance, historical fiction, historical romance, and unique dystopians. Remember, BookFish only publishes middle grade, young adult, and new adult novels.

If you have a completed manuscript (no partials, please), join the party! Here's more information: #Pit2Pub

I hope to see you there! Back to my edits... <crawls back into the editing cave>

I cut my hair for summer!

Deek and I headed to a pool party with friends.

Deek and I at a balloon festival after the pool party.

Deek and I at a town festival on July 4th. They had a selfie station--genius!

Deek after he turned in his first round of content edits on 122 Rules! Go Deek!! I'm so proud of you, baby!!

Deek and I headed to a street festival in Portland.